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Hypnosis for Acquiring a Love Relationship

This is the second in a series on how hypnotherapy can create more positive relationships.

Find love with Hypnosis

"Those that go searching for love, only manifest their own lovelessness. And the loveless never find love, only the loving find love. And they never have to seek for it.” – D. H. Lawrence

On some level, everyone knows that desperation means failure when searching for a romantic partner. Yet, so many people in the market for a partner feel desperate. It makes sense. Human beings are social creatures. They want to know that they fit in, that they belong, and that they are accepted. They also find satisfaction in caring for others and security in being cared for. Without security, without social acceptance, and without someone to nurture, many people feel utterly lost.

What are keys to attracting a romantic relationship?

Ironically, the trick is to be fine alone and never, never feel desperate. The trick is to accept yourself exactly the way you are and to embrace the adventure of the unknown. You may or may not find a partner. If you force yourself into a relationship or settle for a relationship that requires you to be less than you are or different than you are, that relationship will certainly fail. So, why go through the pain?

Another trick, as DH Lawrence says, above, is to be loving – to care for and about others, while respecting the self, but not focusing solely on the self. It’s one thing to set good boundaries and to know your own limitations; it’s another thing to think that the partner you’re looking for is there just to please you. It’s important to care for another, to the extent that you can mean your vows if it comes to getting married. For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness or in health, means you’re not focusing only on yourself. Your relationship goes beyond other people’s opinions or the stuff you share together. It’s about commitment and intimacy, and intimacy doesn’t just mean sex.